WAX LYRICAL with Mel Ve | 31 January 2017 @ 7PM GMT – Running a FREE & INDEPENDENT MEDIA network is no easy task. Apart from the obvious difficulties such as lack of resources, there comes a number of other interesting challenges that test us and teach us about ourselves.
Doing what we do gives us the unique opportunity to work with many different people from all walks of life, and indeed, some of these people have been through some really difficult situations. The true challenge is being able to adapt to everybody’s rhythm, and to harness the talents and embrace the passion of any person who wants to expose the evil and corruption of this world. Sadly, all too often, many of these people have themselves suffered terrible circumstances and traumas, which is why and how they have come to know the truth about the world we live in.
The true joy of doing what we do is seeing those amazing souls, who have been so battered by a broken and unjust system, find their inner strength, and rise up to take on the challenge of making a difference in what ever way they can.
The unfortunate part of doing what we do, is being faced with the many damaged people who have not been able to overcome the negative programming and traumas of the past sufficiently enough, that they are unable to be fully functional in society, or even in media… but that does not stop them from trying. In many cases, a lot of these people are just looking for attention and validation, the kind they never got in life, and they think that media will give it to them. When the shocking reality hits them that nothing will save them except taking responsibility for their own actions, they immediately lash out and blame others, especially those who tried to help them, or dared to believe in them.
Media does not change who you are. It may paper over the cracks by creating a pseudo veneer or false external locus of identity, an image you want the world to believe in, but it does not change who you are inside. The ones that last in FREE & INDEPENDENT MEDIA are the ones who are genuine. The way they survive is by drawing on the light of truth for strength, and for standing in their truth and being accountable for their words and actions. Those that weave a tangled web of lies and deceit all to often come unstuck when they are no longer able to keep up pretences about who they want others to believe they are.
I have seen some amazing people come through our network, many of whom have overcome the most astonishing odds. It is these people who inspire me with strength every single day.
Sadly, there are also those who use their victimhood as a reason to be completely nasty and abusive to other people, and if we do anything or react in any way, it triggers an even bigger explosion or drama. It gets to a point eventually where one becomes afraid or hesitant to communicate with these types for the fear of their reaction… and then when they don’t get the response they want, they lash out demanding the attention of anybody foolish enough to be ensnared in their vile, anger fuelled energetic vamping. Such volatile behaviour is nothing but damaging to those who are subjected to it, and even more damaging on the moral of a team involved in strenuous projects.
Ultimately, we may not be responsible for the negative programming we are subjected to at the hands of a very broken and corrupt society, but as mature adults, we can absolutely decide how we let this programming affect as we grow up. Learning not to project my hatred, anger and pain of my own past circumstances, onto other people, has been the biggest lesson in growth that I have achieved from running such a dynamic project. I thank Conscious Consumer Network, the greater collective that it is, for healing my soul and giving me strength.
I have also learned a great deal about being tolerant and compassionate with people’s pain and suffering. I have realised that when people act out with actions or words that are meant to be hurtful or damaging, the way to react is not to be hurtful or damaging back, rather to try and understand where that hurt and anger is coming from, and to show compassion and empathy for the suffering of others….
That being said, there is a boundary of respect that needs to be adhered to, and if people are continually abusive and destructive, then one needs to have enough self respect to take control of the situation by sorting it out, or walking away. At no point should anybody be compassionate to the point of being an emotional punching bag. Being compassionate also means having compassion for yourself, and not allowing yourself to be abused or traumatised by other people. After all, we can’t always determine what other people say or do, but we can absolutely determine how we let it affect us.
Peace Love Unity Respect